A father’s warning to his daughter reverberates after a Cornell alleged gang‑rape case. He says the incident proves the need for early, firm guidance.
Father’s Advice on Girl Power
Big Jim, the original girl‑dad, told his daughter that womanhood does not equal passivity. He insists men must model strength and responsibility from day one.
He warned that girls are not leaves tossed by the wind, but active agents who must steer their own course. This lesson, he says, begins long before college parties.
The author recalls growing up with a father who never missed a father‑daughter dance, preferring card games to nightlife. He never dated in high school, focusing instead on family and personal growth.
When peer pressure mounted, Big Jim sat his daughter down for a direct talk. He told her that false friends will abandon her if she resists the crowd.
He explained that anyone who shuns her for standing firm is not a true friend, and she should move on to find her real circle.
He warned that alcohol, drugs and casual sex erode personal control and invite negative outcomes. “If you drink, drug or have sex outside a committed relationship, you surrender your future to momentary impulses,” he said.
He added a strict rule: never drink from an open container that isn’t under constant watch. He said predators actively seek such opportunities.
Camille Paglia, a cultural critic, reiterated similar concerns in a recent interview about the Cornell case. She declared, “The sexual revolution must be undone because middle‑class women can’t handle it. They cannot take responsibility for their own actions.” She believes this stance reinforces the need for personal accountability.
Dr. Caroline Heldman, a feminist scholar, claimed sorority sisters have the same right to binge drink as brothers, but responsibility still lies with peers. The author rejected that stance, insisting personal accountability remains essential. He asked why a woman should bear no responsibility for choosing to become incapacitated.
He noted that low‑character individuals exploit vulnerability, but the solution is firm self‑discipline, not victim‑blaming. He concluded that the only control a woman can truly claim is showing up daily as the person her father envisioned.
