A writer’s recent piece on men’s struggles ignited a backlash asking “What about the women?”
Media Portrayal Distorts Men and Women
The author’s recent article on men’s challenges sparked a flood of “What about the women?” comments.
He argued that pornography, social media and video games keep boys from taking real risks and becoming reliable husbands, fathers or providers.
Critics redirected blame toward women, claiming they are worthless or overly demanding, while the author noted his own criticism of toxic femininity in past pieces.
He observed that few readers shouted “What about the men?” when he wrote about women’s role in family breakdown and feminism’s impact.
After publishing, the author flew to Ohio, where he watched two episodes of the dramatized series “Landman” without internet access.
The show depicts women as hypersexualized, emotionally unstable, and prone to throwing dishes, while men escape or dominate through money, sex or power.
He said the series reflects a broader media trend that normalizes dysfunction, makes emotional stability invisible, and presents relationships as transactions.
According to the author, modern screens bombard users with filtered images, endless pornography and algorithmic rewards that replace real‑world conquest.
He contrasted this with the messy reality of marriage, parenting and work, where real families face mud, broken pipes, sick animals and unpaid bills.
Personal Responsibility Shapes Future Generations
The author has two daughters and two sons, and says his behavior defines what they expect from women and men.
He stresses that love is measured not by chores completed but by kindness, apologies and tenderness shared at home.
He urged men to stay present during conflict instead of retreating into porn, games or work, and to hear a woman’s fear without interpreting it as an accusation.
He also called on women to name their hurt directly, take responsibility for emotions, and avoid manipulation or silent punishment.
Both genders, he argued, are being sold counterfeit versions of themselves by media and technology.
His solution is simple: gather evidence of what people love about people, put down the screen, speak truthfully, apologize and ask clearly for what is needed.
He concluded that personal responsibility offers the only chance to break the cycle of dysfunction.
Views expressed are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect those of The Epoch Times.
